When you marry, your family extends to others. Is the expansion beneficial or harmful? Depending on your answer, your personal and marital happiness can be affected, big time!

The genesis for this sharing came while observing our son-in-law (SIL) David while he was putting some of his skill sets to use at our home. Recently we bought a Sunlighten sauna. It had to be put together. Big job. I surely can’t do it. (My tool chest consists of a hammer!). David volunteered to do it. His mechanical engineering degree from Georgia Tech was put to good use. (Yes, UGA and GT can live together in harmony, at least 364 days of the year). David did a masterful job and hopefully, the infrared heat in the sauna will aid in my cancer life extension quest.

David is a wonderful SIL, loving, husband to our daughter, Brittany, and super father to their two kids, Hailey and Kaitlyn. And he is handy!

Sherry and I are so fortunate that our kids married great people who have come from awesome strong parents, just as the two of us have been fortunate to do. Both David and Cara, (son Kris’ spouse) have parents who have been in long lasting marriages. They have lovingly modeled and taught outstanding values and work ethic. Thus, David and Cara are terrific people, co-creating solid marriages, kids, and income production. We are grateful for our extended family!

How about you, Respected Reader? Do you have such good fortune? Hope so, for it certainly affects your life. A couple of questions for you to consider. Do you have sons or daughters who are married? Do you have a good relationship with their spouses? What kind of parents do they come from? Do you like them — get along with them? How about other extended family members that you have inherited? How often do you interact with them? Is it usually enjoyable — or not? Anything you might be able to do to make the dynamics more pleasant?

We have been fortunate with extended family — definitely a boon. And you? Boon or bane? 

P.S. This article was written pointed at adults who have adult married kids. This extended family topic is most pertinent as well for those considering marriage at some point. Check out prospective parents and other extended family members who may come into your life, of your prospective partner. It will be a factor!

Dr Stathas can be reached at 706-473-1780. Email: jstathas13@gmail.com. Web site: drstathas.googlepages.com.  Blog: drstathas.com